HELP.. ADVICE PLEASE: I don’t know how to differentiate what is real from worry created by insecurity and need for validation. I don’t know whether someone very important in my life is making me feel insignificant or if I’m doing it to myself. I make breakfast and dinner every day, clean and apply for jobs all day every day, and do all of the laundry. I start a decent full-time job next Tuesday, and have made serious efforts to pull my weight, but this person doesn’t acknowledge my efforts and holds money over my head. I always say, “I’m trying so hard,” anda told, “If my boss gives me a problem to solve, can I go to him with no answer and say I tried? Does it matter if I tried if I can’t solve the problem? No.” Everyday I spend all day very productively with nothing but the best of intentions, and every day ends with criticism, a lecture, and being told “I explain this to you everyday.” I am exhausted. I feel like there is no point in trying because my efforts don’t change the outcome. I keep being told I have “attitude,” but I don’t see how. I feel like I’m being cut off in conversation, and there is too much swearing from the other person. I feel like I don’t have a fair chance. I am afraid to talk to friends about this because I don’t want them to make things harder or criticize me for continuing this relationship.
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— Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
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